Monday, October 26, 2020

Mummy Brain

 

I have two little boys who just turned one.Before them I had a really strong memory.I would remember the small details.Pregnancy brain did not affect me.I remembered everything.I thought I am superwoman I am leaving this unscathed.Little did I know that I will pay for this once the boys were here.

These days I am that old woman.I will pick my phone to call someone and would not remember who it was.I will take the remote to watch something and would not remember the station I wanted to tune to.

More and more I realize mummy brain is a gift.Babies can test you.Like Bashir who the other day waited to have his diaper removed before he pooped on the carpet or Fahmi who throws everything on the floor.

My little ones are mischief kings but this does not make me love them less or see them negatively.Everything is quickly forgotten.Also mums are time savers and efficient.These days I am the one who submits everything before deadline.Sometimes I forget I did but I have never missed a deadline in the past year :-) :-). Allah`s infinite wisdom

Mommies out there how did you beat this forgetfulness??

Monday, September 7, 2020

Female Owned Small Business You Should Support

I am a supporter of females.I want women to succeed.Increasingly a lot of the businesses I buy items from are women owned and if they are muslim  and/or mothers it makes me very happy.
 

Many people are starting small businesses especially young ladies.It seems everyone has a small business or is thinking of starting one.Most of these businesses challenge me because they are owned by people in their early twenties.Young people with big dreams doing big things.Some have even left full time employment to focus on their businesses!
I buy from small businesses as much as I can and these five are ones that I love and would recommend any day.

Moderne
Moderne is a tailoring business that is co-owned by two sisters.They make beautiful custom dresses,skirts,kimonos and palazzo pants.Basically modest clothing targeting the muslimahs.Their dresses are very beautiful and sell out pretty first.I am a huge fan and a lot of my dresses are from them.

Buy from them because their dresses are custom and for each material and design only few dresses are made.Its highly unlikely that you will get something from them and you find out everyone else has it.

Only thing is be sure to know your measurements when getting a dress from them because they will not take responsibility if sent measurements are too small and the dress cannot fit

Tajified

Ibtisam is the official girl boss she has big marketing job and makes really good bags.I have gotten so many compliments since I got her tote bag.The bag is quite functional and so very pretty.She makes a wide range of bags.Check her page out you are sure to get something to suit what you are looking for.


Elimu Box 
Are you interested in getting books and crafts materials? Elimu box is the place to do this.The lady that runs it is so friendly and so efficient,she does same day deliveries.From them I have bought books, pom poms and googly eyes.Neema is so friendly that she even gives you ideas on how to use the craft materials based on the age of your child.

Lactacare
Lactacare is a business that is so close to my heart.Their lactation tea and cookies worked so well for me.The first time I used them I woke up having leaked milk mpaka the bed was proper wet.Their cookies are so delicious sometimes I miss them.If you are breastfeeding and struggling with supply try them.You will not regret.

Little Muslims Bookshelf
This business has so many muslim books for children.If you are a mum and want to read Islam story books and introduce duas to your little ones this page has it all.I buy stories from the Quran from them.My intention is to have all of the books in this series in due time.The lady that runs gives good advice on what books to get first based on what you want to achieve from the books.They do same day deliveries within Nairobi.

What small businesses do you recommend and why?

Monday, April 27, 2020

Breast Feeding Hacks


Precious times.Those early days can feel quite taxing but it ending also worries me.I am trying to get to twelve months despite my babies not being big fans.
Breastfeeding, one of the things each first time mum thinks will come easily and naturally.For some lucky women it comes very easy and they constantly are leaking milk.Some like me have to work very hard for it and others do not have any breast milk at all.

I have been breastfeeding for close to nine months now.In this time I have learnt a few things through research and experience.If you are struggling in breastfeeding and are looking for tips below are things that have worked for me.

Start early.

Those early days after you give birth are the window of opportunity in breastfeeding.It is at this time that one is able to build their supply to a level that they produce enough milk or even more milk than their babies need.If you are able to, breast-feed or pump within the first hour after you give birth.This is major key because the first few times one breast-feeds or pumps milk they produce colostrum.Colostrum helps babies build their immunity,creates a protective coating on your babies new stomach and is basically the highest quality liquid gold.

Feed or express often

Breast-milk production is demand based.The more there is demand for milk the more milk is produced.To ensure you are making enough,feed or express every two to three hours.Each feeding session should last for between 20 to 30 minutes or even more.If breastfeeding ensure that the baby empties the breast each time.If the baby does not do it express milk after each session.This has to be the thing I struggle the most to do.Hard but the payoff is worth it.

Hydrate and eat good nutritious food
Everytime I express milk,I label the storage bag with what I ate.Then when I feed it to the boys I tell them; `guess what mummy you are eating such and such kind of food`.I also do this to keep myself accountable and to ensure I am eating good food for the babies.

When breastfeeding eat for one and drink for two.

Fluids are what will make milk.Drink plenty of water,soup,porridge,milo,cocoa and anything warm fluid you like.Aim to drink atleast three litres of fluids.Also eat nutritious food,this way you ensure in addition to producing a lot of milk,the milk is also top quality.

There are foods known as galactagogues.These foods have the potential to increase milk supply.I have tried tonnes of them with little success 😂😂.Oats have worked for me,so I am always eating oatmeal porridge on most days.

Everytime you eat or drink something be sure to add an ingredient that boosts milk supply.
 
Lactation supplements

Breastfeeding needs support let no one lie to you.I found that lactation goodies from Lactarcare Kenya have worked wonders for me.They make cookies,muffins and teas.Good thing about them is they custom make everything.If you want sugar free everything they do it.If you are like me and hyper-acidity from pregnancy has never gone they make products that do not cause heartburns.I cannot say enough good things about Lactacare.If you are struggling with supply contact them and you will surprise yourself with how much milk you can make.In addition to selling lactation supplements they also offer advice which I find invaluable especially as a first time mum.

Have breastfeeding goals

            I often go on google and search breast milk images to see how over-achieving breast-feeders are doing
My babies spent time at the newborn unit because they came too early.Having babies in the newborn unit teaches you things like how mls and grams are so very important.

Each morning you see the pediatrician and he informs you of the progress your babies have made.He also informs you how much milk your babies are taking each feed.This gives you an estimate of how much milk is needed per day.This kept me expressing a lot of times to ensure that I met daily targets of milk needed.Most days and especially after the first weeks I could not meet demand because making almost 1000mls of milk is not easy but I aimed to get 80% of the babies feed.

Having daily milk production targets made me express more,drink loads of milo and porridge and research on milk production.Goals push you and this is why it is important to have them while breastfeeding.

Relax and let your body do the work

You will surprised to know that the mothers who exclusively breastfeed are mostly the rural mothers.Those with no access to research and lactation supplements.Do you know why? those mothers are relaxed,their main focus is the baby.They are not thinking of snap-back,what their maternity cover is doing or having nanny drama.

Breastfeeding is a natural body process.Trust your body it knows what to do but remember to eat,hydrate and feed/express often.

Attend a lactation/breastfeeding class 

To be informed is to be forewarned.

If you can attend lactation class run and do it.Breastfeeding comes with some challenges like: latching is not a given,how to hold a baby during breastfeeding does not come naturally,even how you hold the boobies during feeding is taught.I am lucky that I got someone to teach me these things for free.A lot of maternity nurses teach things related to breastfeeding after you give birth be sure to ask them if you need support.


Mums reading this what worked best for you during your breastfeeding journey??